It’s been an entire month since I’ve returned back to my “normal”/”regular” life. Every week evokes different types of emotions.
So here’s a week by week play-by-play (except actually a general overview):
• Week 1: The first week was quite “normal.” I think my exhaustion, which caused me to sleep through the majority of the week, did not allow me, or helped me avoid, experiencing what my “new home”/old home would (and does) feel like.
But one thing that did upset me was people constantly asking me how much it sucks to be home… This question made me wonder how unhappy people actually are in their daily lives.
Our daily routine makes up the majority of our lives; it consumes us and strongly affects how we feel and for those reasons, I don’t understand how people continue doing things that make them feel so unhappy. I’ve recently come to realize, or perhaps recently acquired this ideology, that I will not do anything elective that does not make me happy. OBVIOUSLY there are required tasks that we must all do, like get up to brush our teeth when we are super comfortable on the couch, but I hope you all realize that is not what I mean. I’m referring to engaging in elective activities that do not bring us intrinsic happiness (not even the idea of happiness that we are pressured to believe in due to society.) This mindset strongly contrasts that of the the typical over-caffeinated and over-exhausted American who is constantly on the go, so I am grateful for being able to experience and learn about other society’s cultures and values while I was abroad.
• Week 2: The second week became a bit tougher. Reality was hitting me hard. It’s quite ironic that when I was traveling to a new country every weekend and living on another continent all together, I felt more sheltered than I did/do returning home. I suppose it’s the idea that the “type” of people that would go to “such places” and do “such things” are all very similar. Coming home, back to reality, I was hit with the fact that not everyone is “good people,” and people do hurtful things without realizing it. I think this may be obvious, and maybe even a truth about life, but it definitely does take a toll on a positive person. I definitely began to miss my friends from abroad.
o The Blackhawks also did win the Stanley cup this week making things MUCH better! I went to the parade with my family. It was an awesome afternoon with great people.
• Week 3: The third week was still full of early mornings and going to bed even earlier. I saw my family a lot and that made things better. We had a surprise 50th birthday party for my aunt and it brought happiness to so many people, obviously making me even happier. I love my family and am so grateful for them.
o TBH I spend most afternoons with my family. (Like I already mentioned the Blackhawks parade and the birthday party, but there were many other afternoons like those including: the USA vs. Poland men’s volleyball game, an afternoon full of soccer, breakfast after church, and so much more.) If I’m not spending time with my nieces then my parents or my Babcia. I’ve realized that this is currently what makes me happy.
• Week 4: During the fourth week, I began to realize how much I internally changed. People still ask me about my trip and how it was, and it’s been very difficult to express my emotions and illustrate my experiences. I’ve recently realized that I’ve been feeling quite a bit of stress and anxiety about returning back to school. I enjoyed my experience abroad so much that I fear I will become a victim of all my old bad habits that were fostered by my environment. (I can definitely elaborate more on week four, but I’ve come to the point where writing this is no longer enjoyable so I’ve decided that this is where I’ll stop for today. No reason to force something that isn’t necessary)
I miss many things about living in Spain, and I assume the list will only grow longer, but I do not regret one thing or wish that things were different. Every day is a growing experience. The only thing that is guaranteed is the current moment so I will do my very best to make the best of every current moment.
Wishing everyone a safe & HAPPY 4th of july! Enjoy!
Ten un buen tiempo chicos!
P.S shout out to my boy Anotonio for helping me struggle through his class and giving me an A 😍😍
Xoxo,
K